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A game-changer…

by Clare Mansell
A game-changer…

Yesterday was a big day for our family. Anyone who has any involvement in the military will know that every two years your life is suspended whilst you wait with baited breath for news of your spouse’s posting. Months before you will have sat down together and completed a wish list of jobs and locations and then between times tried desperately hard not to waste energy thinking of the consequences of each and every one of those possible options.

It doesn’t always make for the happiest of family lives and so two years ago we made a decision to try and create some stability out of this chaos, by moving into our own home. I have written before about how that meant choosing a life where we live “apart together” and the compromises this has meant. This time around the news would mean one of three things. A new weekly commute of equal distance, a new weekly commute that involved a flight or just possibly a daily commute.

Last night as we waited for news I realised I was completely mentally unprepared to hear the option that involved a weekly flight and I set about belatedly trying to prepare. Yesterday morning I got up and tried to carry on through our morning routine without obsessively checking the phone every few minutes, but then finally the news came…


… Jim’s next job is going to be 18 minutes away from our home.

It’s an absolute game-changer. There is still another year of weekly commutes ahead which will be broken up by an extended period of leave over the summer and Christmas, but when the latest addition to our family arrives, we will only be a few short months away from all living together under one roof.

My dad summed it up nicely this afternoon when he said “So you aren’t going anywhere until at least 2018” which is as damn near stability as we are ever likely to get.

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Lucy @ The Two Saving Sisters May 15, 2015 - 7:51 am

We’re a military family and I totally get it! That’s amazing and I’m absolutely delighted for you. It’s like the best possible present. Ever! Congratulations, like all Military families – you deserve it!

Em @ snowingindoors May 15, 2015 - 10:05 am

Congratulations! that’s brilliant news, I’m really happy for you guys 🙂

Terri May 15, 2015 - 10:15 am

Wow what brilliant news congratulations you must be so happy

Robyn @ The little woman pretends. May 15, 2015 - 10:27 am

Such fantastic news! Congratulations xxx

fashion-mommy May 15, 2015 - 10:30 am

What brilliant news, so good that you will be so close together, and as a family.


jan - isisjem May 16, 2015 - 8:54 pm

Just catching up on my blog reading. Firstly congratulations! and secondly wow! what great luck to only be 18 minutes away. I’m 5.5 hours away from my other half and have been waiting for at least 3 years to find out if the Army are getting rid of him or not…All they’ve done so far is move the goal posts and move him further away. I’m lucky if I see him once a month – but luckily we don’t have small children to figure into that equation!

Donna May 16, 2015 - 10:55 pm

I can’t imagine life as a military wife but living minutes from Sandhurst RMA and working in financial customer service I hear a lot of stories form families in your situation. It can’t be easy x

oana79 May 19, 2015 - 6:17 pm

Oh, I am sure the news brought enormous relief, especially with a little one on its way! I am happy for you all.xx


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